Monday 5 May 2008

Embracing Motherhood

“Know that the cockeyed definition of motherhood to which most of us are trying to measure up, makes it very hard to love being a mom. Only when you begin to write your own definition of great mothering, embracing the contradictions within, will you truly feel at home in your new life” - Mary Stark (2006)

This excellent article and the above quote made me think about what it means to me to be a mother. It helped me to put together my own definition of what a great mother would be like and also try to create a definition that felt realistic and achievable to me.

- Love unconditionally
- Allow yourself to be loved
- Have fun, sing, laugh, play
- Let your children guide and lead you
- Come down to your children’s love
- Stop saying NO all the time
- Be honest
- Value and honour yourself as a mother
- Allow yourself to make mistakes and when you do to start again.

What would you add to this list?


  1. Oh- Umm Salihah???? Check my blog :) It will be worth it, promise!

    What would I add to your list?

    -To be as healthy as possible for your children (i.e. taking good care of one's self).

    I realize there are only so many things we can control about our health, but I am now seeing the importnace of taking control of things that can be changed (eating habits, physical activity, emotional health)...

    Very good list youve put together. Look forward to reading more in my crunch to find spare time!

    Assalamu alaykum!


  2. Walaykam-assalam Sister iMuslimah,

    ooh ooh ooh, I know what its gonna be...