Friday 25 July 2008

Happy Jummah – Hope and Reconciliation

I’m so pleased it’s the precious Jummah Day. I’m finally starting to feel like myself (no way can jet lag last a week can it?) and need to sort a few important things out. Top of the list is the one that is make or break for me. I’ve had a little fall-out with my mum (as soon as I got back from Pakistan) and broke my golden rule of staying silent and answered back and made things worse.

My pride being what it is, I decided to stay away from her and not go back for the next few months so that they everyone knows how hurt I feel (very grown up). I’ve managed to last a week and have felt ill all this week because of it. I cried my eyes out last night in salah. When you face Allah (SWT) you can neither lie to him, nor is there any point in lying to yourself. Whoever’s fault an argument is, I should try to end it. Even when my parents are angry with me or I with them, I should keep going back and trying to serve them until they have to forgive me.

The following two hadith kept coming to mind in my prayer last night:

Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Disgrace! Disgrace! Disgrace!" They said, "Messenger of Allah, who?" He said, "The one who fails his parents or one of them when they are old will enter the Fire." [Al-Adab al-Mufrad Al-Bukhari]

Abu Ayyub al-Ansari narrates that Rasulullah (PBUH) said: "It is not right for a man to abandon his brother for more than three days." [Bukhari, Muslim].

So today I am going to get flowers, fruit and sweets on the way home and slink over to mum’s house and risk a good slapping (you’re never too old for a good smack in her book as kooky little sis will testify). I hope Allah accepts my intentions and mum stops being cross.

Happy Jummah all and may Allah (SWT) make this day blessed and useful for you and accept all of your dua’s insh’Allah.

"And your Rubb has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour. And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: `My Rabb! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was young.” ~ Al-Quran 17:23-24

Abu 'Isa Al-Mughirah bin Shu`bah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said, "Allah has forbidden you: disobedience to your mothers, to withhold (what you should give), or demand (what you do not deserve), and to bury your daughters alive. And Allah dislikes idle talk, to ask too many questions (for things which will be of no benefit to one), and to waste your wealth” [Al-Bukhari and Muslim].


  1. Anonymous25 July, 2008

    Happy Jummah and may Allah made your reconciliation easy on you! No matter what, your family will always be the closest to you...that doesn't mean you'll have to agree on everything :-)

  2. Aslamu alakum ukti
    I am sorry to read you falling out with your mom, Allah Al Must'aan. I hope you made up and all went well ameen. Sometimes its easier to bite the tounge with the elders, they mean well.