tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post8760594366014278049..comments2024-03-28T05:55:54.342+00:00Comments on Happy Muslim Mama: Little Muslimah’s and the Teen Dream LifeHappy Muslim Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16144849663355612169noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-63475418391242834822016-09-11T13:37:27.078+01:002016-09-11T13:37:27.078+01:00Am so worried am a mum of one, his almost 2.I have...Am so worried am a mum of one, his almost 2.I haven't a clue how am gonna instill Islamic values to my little one. I don't know how to strike a balance. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-60988362682553609102016-09-07T23:44:12.470+01:002016-09-07T23:44:12.470+01:00Salaams sis, I love reading your post. As a workin...Salaams sis, I love reading your post. As a working mum of 2, I feel the strain of giving into their requests or staying firm resulting in sulks. To the point now I am considering a career break just to be with them dedicating the much needed time and attention they need. Just wondering what your thoughts are on this and if you think it is something that would make a difference? bubblez2009https://www.blogger.com/profile/03933115017903999573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-81430637890911669162016-09-02T14:18:48.297+01:002016-09-02T14:18:48.297+01:00Salam
I have read your blog with great interest a...Salam<br /><br />I have read your blog with great interest and admiration for a few years now. Little Lady is clearly as articulate and intelligent as you, and I am sure is growing to be a lovely and well-balanced young woman.<br /><br />Islamically I have read that there are three phases of raising a child: the first seven years are to love and nurture them; the second seven years are to teach them and the third phase extends beyond adolescence and it involves being a friend to them. <br /><br />I have followed this thinking in raising my own children and strongly believe that at the age of 14 and above it is time to start letting them make their own mistakes and being there to help and guide rather than to reward and punish. <br /><br />That does not mean allowing your child to put themselves into danger but that they are now allowed to be slightly more independent. <br /><br />It seems as though you have a good relationship with your daughter and that is the thing that will protect her the most, keeping those channels of communication open so she can share her feelings and discuss her problems with you. <br /><br />I pray that our children all grow to be shining beacons of Islam and are the leaders in solving the difficulties facing the world in these troubled times. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-89896195680386189232016-09-01T03:13:16.383+01:002016-09-01T03:13:16.383+01:00You are preventing her from having a normal lifest...You are preventing her from having a normal lifestyle like her non Muslim friends--I understand she is only 13 but there will come a time when you will have to scale back or risk losing your daughter. <br />especially in the UK where there is so much freedom once you turn 18. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-61254813497586860122016-08-30T20:08:20.894+01:002016-08-30T20:08:20.894+01:00Assalaamu aleikum,
I feel your anxiety - so much ...Assalaamu aleikum,<br /><br />I feel your anxiety - so much of this resonates with our family. I do agree that a daily taleem is a really important part of the routine and should be non-negotiable.Umm Shareefnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-83809065321680490532016-08-28T08:04:19.362+01:002016-08-28T08:04:19.362+01:00Assalamalaikum HMM, you and ur husband made the ri...Assalamalaikum HMM, you and ur husband made the right choice. We gave my lil sis complete freedom with the computer n friends n didnt snoop thru her phone. We trusted her completely. Now were just praying she finds good muslim friends to help her come back to the deen.<br /><br />So yeah all that freedom she wants, can only serve to corrupt, n she shud undersfand you guys arent jail wardens out to punish her but ur looking out for her best interest. <br /><br />It's easier to prevent issues than deal with the aftermath of them. <br /><br />You guys were right abt not letting her go to parks or out to town on her own. With the anti muslim sentiment esp for muslim women, its very dangerous. Plus, kids shudnt be left to their devices and go out alone at such a young age in these times.<br /><br />If other parents give their kids the green lighht, thats their issue. Hopefully she realizes out of love and concern and her overall safety these rules have been made. Islam wasnt created to punish us with austerity but to protect us from fitnah.<br /><br />sorry for the long post and she will come around n understand when she hears stories of kids with massive freedom and their outcomes. She will feel grateful for ur rules n boundaries.Anonymously29https://www.blogger.com/profile/00010562475407749759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-66293115306008558732016-08-28T00:48:14.454+01:002016-08-28T00:48:14.454+01:00I find it difficult to find the line between what ...I find it difficult to find the line between what is right, wrong or acceptable when it comes to modern technology, media and the islam perspective. But for my husband pictures of people are banned in our house, i can't take photographs of our family using a camera and he says TV & all programmes are banned because they are are not allowed in Islam. This ban extends to YouTube and the internet for watching video's . I can't cut it out but he has for himself and wants that for our young kid. It's a dilemma for me and I wonder the impact on the young one being cut off from everything apart from school and books etc. I wonder if my husbands view is actually islamic? or is he being super strict in his beliefs? He does tableeghi jamaat work here and thats where he learns all of his Islamic knowledge from but makes me wonder why there is people like mufti menk posting his selfie type images on Instagram showing his travels and life and my husband believes pictures/videos of people are wrong in Islam. Doesn't make sense to me. Any thoughts?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-75264489507449151402016-08-27T12:58:18.101+01:002016-08-27T12:58:18.101+01:00SubhanAllah! This is exactly what's going on i...SubhanAllah! This is exactly what's going on in my house at the moment. Felt very emotional reading it. We ask Allah to guide us and our progeny. Aameen Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-89249476623407340072016-08-25T17:37:10.904+01:002016-08-25T17:37:10.904+01:00It's a stuggle we can all fall into. Teens, yo...It's a stuggle we can all fall into. Teens, young adults and even fully grown folk. It's difficult and overwhelming. I remember one of the last things that made me revert was the material side that made me very overwhelmed both on the inside and out. That's why just before my 20th birthday I decided to revert and obviously various other things. But I was so done with the pressure of society's standards. And don't get me wrong it's still a struggle a HUGE one. But I'm in a different place. <br /><br />So it is more than understandable that you've chosen to tighten the social media schedule. I really admire the decision to school your children in these ways. And I pray they blessed in doing so Ameen <br /><br /><br />I really loved this post btw Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-23865023095639682422016-08-24T23:50:26.805+01:002016-08-24T23:50:26.805+01:00This is exactly something that crosses my mind whe...This is exactly something that crosses my mind when I think about raising muslim children in europe. I am a convert muslim and i want to learn beforehand what i would like my future children inshaAllah to learn but I understand of the influence other people or the society may have on them. I look forward to know how things go with LL. I know i can not apply your approach with any child because of the different personalities they may have but it will inspire me to know that they will get through somehow inshaAllah. Will keep you and your family in my prayers. ☺ummi in processhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00325474456864646532noreply@blogger.com