tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post6750500525155526976..comments2024-03-28T05:55:54.342+00:00Comments on Happy Muslim Mama: Selfish But Happy?Happy Muslim Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16144849663355612169noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-48955387049133103112009-05-28T08:35:25.275+01:002009-05-28T08:35:25.275+01:00Salam,
Was going through your blog. Nice posts. Es...Salam,<br />Was going through your blog. Nice posts. Especially this one resonated with me. I think all desis are at uptill a point afflicted with trying to appease parents,in-laws, family etc. <br />:) It took me also a long time to learn to say no, for things which were really affecting me negatively.<br />Again nice blog :-)desertmomnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-78244347114502037672009-05-20T19:49:14.112+01:002009-05-20T19:49:14.112+01:00Assalam-alaikam,
Sis iMuslimah,
ha baby-brain, do...Assalam-alaikam,<br /><br />Sis iMuslimah,<br />ha baby-brain, do you reckon that should be recosgnised as a n official condition.<br />I'm so not awesome, I just spent the last 11 or 12 years coming to the realisation that worrying all the time about what others think makes you miserable and they probably don't even know it (I'd be mortified if it was the other way round).<br /><br />Sis Alisha,<br /><br />I think it's your age and stage of life - women always say they are happier in their 30's than in their 20's because they get over worrying so much what people think.<br /><br />I'm sure your in-laws will adore you when they realise what you are like ans that your intentions are good insh'Allah. The only advise I can give is what helped me. Every time my mother-in-law said something I didn't agree with, I'd ask myself, would it offend me if my mum said it? Probably not. Is her intention malicious and does she know how this is making me feel? Very likely not. Islam says to give people the benefit of the doubt right? Insh'Allah just be yourself and do the best that you can, that's enough I think.<br /><br />Sister Anony,<br />Oh that's a long-term project. If you are naturally chatty and open like me, it's hard to be in an environment where there are men also and compartmentalise your personality so that you speak to them differently.<br />I have found that hijab helps, as does prayer, because you go back to work with your head in the right place.<br /><br />Big Sis,<br />you always inspire me hon.<br /><br />Anony 2,<br />jazakh'Allah-khairun for the link, I was actually looking for Quranic and Arabic resources.Happy Muslim Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16144849663355612169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-61599535457149168212009-05-20T03:48:22.317+01:002009-05-20T03:48:22.317+01:00Salam,
Try the following site for learning Qurani...Salam,<br /><br />Try the following site for learning Quranic Arabic<br /><br />http://www.80percentwords.com/Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-89039419321521517822009-05-19T15:04:00.000+01:002009-05-19T15:04:00.000+01:00Fantastic blog - can relate to it in so many ways!...Fantastic blog - can relate to it in so many ways!!Big Sishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12090078328723403621noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-7290720445993252882009-05-19T12:44:00.000+01:002009-05-19T12:44:00.000+01:00salaams sister,
mashaAllah i loved this post hone...salaams sister, <br />mashaAllah i loved this post honest about how you feel and showing the balance of not caring what others think does not mean not to care for people and thier needs,<br />i too cant help wondering what people think of me,want to be liked and you've said it clearly we should set our agenda or i like to call it 'standards' soemtimes i feel like i'm conforming to other peoples agendas though. at the moment its the free mixing thing and thinking where i should draw the line as soemtimes exchanges between males and females at uni or work changes to joking! <br />i'm thinking of marriage right now and i'm learning so much about myself because while getting to know prosepctive husband i need to know what i want and clearly convey it.<br />jazakAllah khayr for this post it was almost like a big sister advising me lol<br />take care<br />wasalamAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-49858025141962397932009-05-19T07:41:00.000+01:002009-05-19T07:41:00.000+01:00Salaams.
Ok. I am thoroughly convinced you are t...Salaams.<br /><br />Ok. I am thoroughly convinced you are the most awesome muslimah I know! How honest and forthright your thoughts are, just show me that you are true to yourself. That is something I struggle with sometimes.<br /><br />I will have to read this again tmorrow morning when I am less affected by "baby brain".<br /><br />Thank you so much,<br /><br />iMuslimahiMuslimahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12734897331905563252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-83901018897822691822009-05-19T07:20:00.000+01:002009-05-19T07:20:00.000+01:00I am still at a point where I worry myself to deat...I am still at a point where I worry myself to death wondering whether I pleased my parents, this applies to almost everything I do. It does my head in sometimes...especially with me about to begin my married life, I am sure I will be judged for every little thing I do. *long big sigh*Alishahttp://thoughtsunchecked.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com