tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post3880993142485381347..comments2024-03-03T22:26:59.742+00:00Comments on Happy Muslim Mama: Mean Little WordsHappy Muslim Mamahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16144849663355612169noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-50486130501005929262017-04-14T11:56:28.392+01:002017-04-14T11:56:28.392+01:00I never had that relationship with my mum, I held ...I never had that relationship with my mum, I held everything in throughout my childhood and teens until I married. Alhamdulillah, my husband I could finally share everything with.<br />I am very open with my children, which has made them very confident in addressing people and expressing how they feel. I hope my family always feel safe venting to me insh'AllahHappy Muslim Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16144849663355612169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-91290421044849193732017-04-14T11:53:32.649+01:002017-04-14T11:53:32.649+01:00Jazakh'Allah sister for your understanding. I...Jazakh'Allah sister for your understanding. I would never have "roasted" the person, it is just not in my nature, but I think the point is, is that there is value sometimes in turning around and addressing the person - perhaps saying that your words hurt.Happy Muslim Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16144849663355612169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-91604021669256335052017-04-14T11:50:54.080+01:002017-04-14T11:50:54.080+01:00I showed your comment to my daughter and her respo...I showed your comment to my daughter and her response had me in fits of laughter. She is very, very fierce and mildly exploded. I am quite cowardly, so I do not know where she gets it from (except my husband is very courageous and grandfather was very fierce and brave).<br /><br />My daughter is very sensible. Despite my efforts to protect my children from the worst things in the world, she is much more mature and sensible than I was at her age and moreso than many adults. I will always be happy to get a second opinion from her. Although the first place I go to seek advice is my husband who is strongly guided by his deen or my mother-in-law who is a very practical woman, we have made it habit that everyone in our family is involved in decision making – the concept of ashurah, or mutual consultation.Happy Muslim Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16144849663355612169noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-34279562265721947552017-04-12T22:32:31.051+01:002017-04-12T22:32:31.051+01:00@HMM, my mom vents to us all the time, its complet...@HMM, my mom vents to us all the time, its completely normal, all mothers and daughters vent to one another. And I think LL responded in the way that someone her age would, obviously as an adult you wouldnnt roast anyone or put anyone down. But, now you know better about who to trust and open up to and who not to. I dont think you did anything wrong.Anonymously29https://www.blogger.com/profile/00010562475407749759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-44833099782340626832017-04-12T22:31:02.933+01:002017-04-12T22:31:02.933+01:00@Anonymous, my beloved brother/sister, let us not ...@Anonymous, my beloved brother/sister, let us not judge a little girl, she is a teenager, and that's how teenagers are. We shouldnt be so harsh towards others.<br /><br />I understand where you're coming from, but most people dont vent to friends or other religious adults about little things. There are some things that are too personal or uncomfortable to share. That's why we vent to family members. And I personally can say from experience, most religious people act judgemental and look down on others when venting, saying "youre too sensitive." or look down upon us or say maybe that person who said such and such to you is right.<br /><br />Certain situations require rahmat and hikmat that's why we go to our family members and those that know and love us for guidance. Every matter should go to the right place-religious matters to religious folks, personal problems to friends, and things we just cant discuss with others-to family.<br /><br />I say this in the most kindest way brother/sister. I agree with talking to ALLAH s.w.t as well, but sometimes we need someone to just give us advice right away.Anonymously29https://www.blogger.com/profile/00010562475407749759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5398611943115596793.post-745229456958926982017-04-06T00:48:33.108+01:002017-04-06T00:48:33.108+01:00That was an not a nice thing for LL to say... i di...That was an not a nice thing for LL to say... i didnt expect that of her. Why should we stoop down to the level of others? Our deen does not teach us that. She should have been corrected as she is at that stage where she will retain what she learns now. Try not to seek advice from your teenager daughters.. its not a wise thing that mothers end up doing, no matter how tempting. Rather talk to ALLAH first then an adult friend/ family member who can give you sound advise based on the Sunnah and not based it on emotions.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com